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Learn how your relationship actually works.

You can’t always choose what you feel. You can learn to choose what you do with it.

KOOS is a private relationship coach being built for the moments that actually go wrong, and for learning, over time, what helps you.

Tell us what you needAnonymous research survey · about 8 minutes

The hard part isn't knowing what you feel

It’s what you do in the thirty seconds after.

  • The same arguments repeat, following a cycle that’s almost impossible to see while you’re in it.
  • A feeling can be completely valid while the reaction it produces makes things worse.
  • Therapy is valuable, but it’s rarely available at 9pm on a Tuesday when the argument is actually happening.
  • General AI gives reasonable advice, then forgets your situation and never finds out whether its advice worked.
  • One partner often wants to change things while the other isn’t ready to take part.

How KOOS would work

Not a chatbot you have to know what to ask. A short guided path through the moment itself.

  1. 1

    Something happened

    Capture it while it’s fresh: what happened, what you feel, and what you’re tempted to do about it.

  2. 2

    Understand it

    Separate the feeling from the fact, and both from the story you’re telling yourself. KOOS can hold your experience and your partner’s possible experience at the same time, without picking a winner.

  3. 3

    Choose a response

    Pause, calm, curious, constructive, repair, or set a boundary. You pick one, or edit it into your own words.

  4. 4

    Act in real life

    You act, not the app. If it’s a message, KOOS can show you how it might land before you send it. KOOS never sends anything.

  5. 5

    Say what happened

    Come back and tell it how things actually went. Better, same or worse.

  6. 6

    It learns what works for you

    Over time your patterns become visible, and the suggestions start drawing on what has genuinely worked for you before.

Why not just ask ChatGPT?

You can, and it will answer well. It just won’t remember your relationship, and it will never learn whether what it told you helped.

General AI

Ask → Answer

Couples apps

Prompt → Activity → Connection

KOOS

Experience → Understand → Choose → Act → Measure → Learn → Improve

That closing loop is the whole point. Advice you never measure is just advice.

A safe place to work on yourself

Not a surveillance system for your partner.

  • Private by default. Your account is yours alone.
  • You can see everything KOOS remembers about you, correct it, or delete it.
  • Before KOOS remembers anything lasting, it asks you first.
  • No hidden monitoring and no partner access. There is no way for someone else to read your private entries.
  • It has to be worth using even if your partner never joins, so it focuses on what you can understand and change, never on getting them to change.

What KOOS is not

  • Not therapy. It is coaching, reflection and practice. It will tell you when something needs a professional.
  • Not a judge. It won’t decide who was right, and it won’t diagnose you or your partner.
  • Not a monitoring tool. It will never help anyone track, test or control a partner.
  • Not automatic. It never sends a message or takes an action on your behalf. You decide, every time.
  • Not a promise. No app can guarantee a relationship. KOOS helps you change what’s yours to change.

Two People, One Journey

We’re deciding what to build. Help us get it right.

Before we build anything, we want to understand what actually happens in real relationships and what kind of support would genuinely help. The survey is anonymous, takes about eight minutes, and honest negative answers are the most useful ones.

Start the survey

No account, no tracking, and you can stop at any point.